Question: Prioritizing hair removal

[agent_dani]

I've been dealing with hair removal for a long time - nearly two years now, though far fewer sessions than that might suggest* - but now am faced with likely having to make choices due to finances - we're buying a house and will have to limit expenses. I'm trying to decide what's the best choice:

Face nearly done and I will be finishing that. I had hoped the last session would be the end but it wasn't.

One session has been done on my arms.

Chest is another I've planned but not begun. I could put this off but the trade-off is severely limited clothing choices - my hair there is very dark and skin very light so even immediately after shaving it's apparent. Anything more revealing then the men's polos I have would be out.

Others? I haven't even considered that yet.

While the ideal answer is all, it's not within my financial reality. Given such a choice, how would you prioritize.


* I think it's six sessions across that time, but most of that has been in the last several months; once I was able to get Saturday appointments the work scheduling problem was alleviated.

Comments

[agent_dani]

Lest I do what I may already have, I really do appreciate your input. Part of it is me working through it, and I think focusing on chest after face (and face ought to be done very soon) is probably what I will do.

I really appreciate you sharing your experiences with shirts. windrdr's experience is different, but her bra choice is also rather different - underwire bras, when fitting properly, while not necessarily minimizing bustline do usually mean lack of cleavage.

[lietya.livejournal.com]

I apologize if I've come across as beleaguering you, too, because I tend to be... thorough outside of Twitter. :) Doesn't mean I would ever think I had any right to harass you. (I've also sort of answered the question "what would *you* do," which - while it is what you asked - is not necessarily what you meant. I screw up on that one a lot.)

Heh. Underwire on me is usually *obscene.* I tried on a couple today, in fact, and it ends up looking like the world's most aggressive push-up. However, I think that's because most underwires do push me up and together. Boobs are weird!

[agent_dani]

Well, I did ask, so it is only fair! As I noted to you elsewhere, "...and patient with those whose counsel you seek."

Interesting. I think windrdr might be interested in the sort you find and, likely, you hers. She goes to a specialty shop that is in the Triangle region which does deal with larger cup sizes, mostly importing from the UK.

[lietya.livejournal.com]

I appreciate that - sincerely, as some people do (justifiably) feel a trifle plagued when I get going.

Oooh, a specialty shop with UK bras does sound wonderful! No wonder she's finding some amazing options. I'm mostly wearing one of the few Lane Bryant bras with no underwire, but the one I tried on today was their T-shirt bra. Too bad; it's really very pretty. I even have bra calling itself a "minimizer" (brand I don't recall) that actually makes me both more aggressively perky and cleavage-y than the LB wire-free!

[agent_dani]

Huh, and here it's one of the things I love about you.

If/when you visit the Triangle, we'll have to be sure you get there! I also need windrdr to tell me where they are. Their site is here but when I checked it a few days ago they hadn't updated it - they still listed their former location in Raleigh. The main disadvantage is that she's only ever once found a bra for less than $100 there, usually a good bit over.

[lietya.livejournal.com]

Awww! *blush* Not many people say that, so it is in turn one reason why I am lucky to have you as a friend. :)

Oh, someday, that sounds wonderful... We do still hope to do some traveling in a year or two, when stuff settles down again.

The price is not ideal, but for that quality of work it's more than worth it.

[agent_dani]

I think I've said elsewhere but I'll repeat it here: one of the things I've really loved about social networking is getting to know so many incredibly strong women such as you.

We'll even be able to provide space for you to stay once we have the house, and it's pretty centrally located (perhaps 3 miles away from I-85.)

A few years ago, windrdr apologized to me for how much she spent on bras. I told her that I consider them a necessity - her not being in pain is very important.

[lietya.livejournal.com]

I'll heartily second that - you are among the strongest women I know, but social networking in general has allowed me to meet some amazing people.

Oh, that's right, you can start plans around the house now. :) Yay!! Of course I'd love to see it in any case (and I forget if we explicitly offered a reciprocal invitation, but you have one - our guest room is small and often full of cats, but it's yours).

Indeed, although that was very thoughtful of you; a surprising number of non-bra-needing people [which you were back then, based on the timeline?] don't realize that a bad one *can* mean being in constant pain. It's not always the most fun thing in the world to spend money on, but you're right that if someone needs it, that's a necessity by definition. I actually would happily go braless, mind you, but the rest of the world might object. ;)

[agent_dani]

Now it's my turn to blush. I've never really felt that but I guess I've earned a place on that list. :)

Yep, and we're looking forward to it! I do recall you offering in a discussion a while ago.

For her, going braless isn't possible; it means pain. We had a conversation at one point about her interest in a robe she liked. I suggested she buy it and she said it was pointless - she'd only wear it if she was at least sitting up, and if she was for any real length of time, she'd have to have a bra on, and if she did that it's just as well she go ahead and dress.

I may not have understood how it felt, but I understood that it meant the difference between my partner being in rather severe pain or comfort. That meant a great deal to me in spite of me not then wearing bras.

[lietya.livejournal.com]

You certainly have. Sometimes, simply not being crushed takes more strength than it seems (and you're making progress despite that).

A lot of women say the same as she does, and I sympathize greatly; I can't imagine how miserable I would be if bras were the *best* option. That's so sad about the robe. :(

That's still more thoughtful and perceptive than some people manage, remarkably. Your care for her no doubt was appreciated.

[agent_dani]

She didn't realize it until she finally got bras that fit properly, which was only after we moved to NC and found a shop that didn't use the add-5" method. The short form is that she suddenly stopped experiencing pain that she hadn't previously realized was there.

I've had similar experiences, really. I began wearing bras in August when it became painful to hit bumps on my commute. However, I was quickly amazed that general back pain disappeared.

Thank you. :) It sucks that just doing the right thing is so exceptional.