Learned some more today.

[agent_dani]

Apparently, my first therapist did manage to get some letters written in a timely fashion through the summer, allowing people to meet the requirements to get dates with the same surgeon in the later part of this year. This was during the time that she was unresponsive for me, taking months to write mine.

This makes for a clear pattern of behavior. She intentionally made longer requirements for me for both access to HRT and surgery. When, due to life circumstances, the longer requirement for a surgery letter didn't impact me she went out of her way to cause a delay (and, for the record, it did cause a delay of my surgery date, but not a significant one.)

Comments

[cmcmck.livejournal.com]

Sheesh!

If this is proveable on paper, I'd say it was actionable, but is it worth the hassle?

[agent_dani]

I don't have that. The clients who don't get that shit from her fail to see legitimacy in the complaints of those of us who do, instead viewing it as persecuting a good provider.

[hazelstitch.livejournal.com]

Why on earth would she do that? That's appalling!

[agent_dani]

It's classic gatekeeping, and is all about exerting control over us.

[hazelstitch.livejournal.com]

I still don't understand why someone in a 'helping' profession would want to do that.

[cmcmck.livejournal.com]

Any of us who have been though this will have run across 'gatekeepers' as they get called at some level. Some people seem just to be power crazed and abuse that power.

In my case, the gatekeepers were the doctors I first ran into rather than the pshrinks who were sane and decent.

[agent_dani]

I'm finding plenty of the latter now. Informed Consent is taking over here. It's amazing how much has changed in just 4 years.

[amokk]

Because they've decided she's not a "true transsexual" using whatever model they were taught or figured out on their own, and thus are blocking her attempts in order to 1. exert power and 2. protect themselves in case of future lawsuits should she go through with it and regret it and sue them for letting her.

Our world sucks sometimes.

[cmcmck.livejournal.com]

Ye gods! Are people still coming out with terms like that? I transitioned back in the mid seventies and the terms 'primary' and 'secondary' were still being used for those who transitioned early or later like that made me better or more real in some way in their perverted etiology.

It was crap then, it's still crap now!

And don't get me started on so called 'regretters'.

[amokk]

Yes, people are still coming out with those terms because the ones who did it then are on the internet as the "older spokespeople for transition related needs" and people who are looking up info, be they trans or gatekeepers or whatever, find that and don't find anything refuting it as far as they can tell, so they take it as gospel.

[sugar-for-sugar.livejournal.com]

Is this something she has against MtF transfolk or is this like a personal vendetta against you? I ... Ugh, I mean it's one thing if this ass is blanket transphobic (one big, not-okay thing, especially when they're in charge of the lives of transpeople) but like, the idea that some people get decent treatment and others get tormented just apparently for funsies is... it's just, cartoon villain ridiculous rage-making behavior.

Fuck that twit and the horse she rode in on.

[sugar-for-sugar.livejournal.com]

Yeah okay then so I came back to say something else (which escapes me now because that's how with it I am) only to find I've left glaring word error in my wake, which is like, just fucking fantastic on my part. I really need to stop having impassioned rants on other people's behalf. ANYWAY.

"...in charge of transpeople's lives" was supposed to be "in charge of BENEFITING transpeople's lives" though thinking on it now it might be an interesting Freudian slip because by being such a stroppy little buttface about the process the doctor has, in fact, wrongfully seized power over someone's life that just... ugh I'm mad again.

Anyway, bla, I'm so sorry. I can't even really imagine what it must have been like on your end if just hearing about it makes me want to vomitrage for you from the frustrating. Needless to say (yet here I am saying it anyway), you really didn't deserve that. Nobody does. And fuck her.