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Follow-up on the last post.
Dec. 20th, 2011 10:02 pmI want to begin this by saying that this isn't as the result of anything any one person has said, and I do very much appreciate what y'all have stated in your responses.
I, personally, am not comfortable directing a certain class of negatives toward that woman, and that is, in part, why I have not (and I will not) said who it was. It's also why a remark I considered at the time about how she was communicating remained unsaid - it was clear it would only provoke fighting and pain for her so I could see no value in saying it (and I do, though, believe that the point would help her with being gendered as female as appears to be her desire.) I'm inclined to see her as someone who is hurting and the source of much of that pain is likely internalized views about trans bodies, i.e. ultimately about her own body. I hope the woman who made those comments is able to have the validation, self/body-image, and life she seeks, and if those surgeries are what it takes for her to have that then so be it.
In the past I had a lot to do with trans* communities (and, even so, I'm still not sure how to define that term.) I've seen a lot of people hurting who lash out, sometimes from that pain. I got out of those communities because I realized that was happening to me - I was internalizing much and it was harming me. I had to get out of that to successfully deal with my transition and, more importantly, life beyond. So, too, was it why I stopped dealing with my therapist a year ago.
I, personally, am not comfortable directing a certain class of negatives toward that woman, and that is, in part, why I have not (and I will not) said who it was. It's also why a remark I considered at the time about how she was communicating remained unsaid - it was clear it would only provoke fighting and pain for her so I could see no value in saying it (and I do, though, believe that the point would help her with being gendered as female as appears to be her desire.) I'm inclined to see her as someone who is hurting and the source of much of that pain is likely internalized views about trans bodies, i.e. ultimately about her own body. I hope the woman who made those comments is able to have the validation, self/body-image, and life she seeks, and if those surgeries are what it takes for her to have that then so be it.
In the past I had a lot to do with trans* communities (and, even so, I'm still not sure how to define that term.) I've seen a lot of people hurting who lash out, sometimes from that pain. I got out of those communities because I realized that was happening to me - I was internalizing much and it was harming me. I had to get out of that to successfully deal with my transition and, more importantly, life beyond. So, too, was it why I stopped dealing with my therapist a year ago.
