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A little family news.
Nov. 25th, 2011 12:49 amToday Dad relayed some news from my cousin (his niece.) To make this short, her husband will not have any contact with me and will not allow their son to do so, either. Dad characterized her view as "caught in the middle." Read between the lines on that one.
I'm okay with this and the only emotion I feel is minor relief at finally having an answer.
She and I never had much of a relationship. She's 10.5 years older than me and lived nearby. By the time I was old enough to begin having a relationship with her she was away at college and med school, and I was being assigned 10-12 hours per day of field work by Dad on his dairy farm. She developed a relationship with my brother because he was allowed to have free time. The few times we tried to have a relationship it was very clear that the only way it would happen was for me to be just like my brother - like the same movies, etc.
For the past decade, the only contact I've had with her has been when it happened that we both visited my parents for a holiday. There is no relationship there to lose, much less mourn a loss, and she was family only in the strict legal sense, not by a definition of family I would willingly use.
I have a life full of so many relationships I cherish - my wife, my family and in-laws, and my incredible friends. These matter; that does not.
I'm okay with this and the only emotion I feel is minor relief at finally having an answer.
She and I never had much of a relationship. She's 10.5 years older than me and lived nearby. By the time I was old enough to begin having a relationship with her she was away at college and med school, and I was being assigned 10-12 hours per day of field work by Dad on his dairy farm. She developed a relationship with my brother because he was allowed to have free time. The few times we tried to have a relationship it was very clear that the only way it would happen was for me to be just like my brother - like the same movies, etc.
For the past decade, the only contact I've had with her has been when it happened that we both visited my parents for a holiday. There is no relationship there to lose, much less mourn a loss, and she was family only in the strict legal sense, not by a definition of family I would willingly use.
I have a life full of so many relationships I cherish - my wife, my family and in-laws, and my incredible friends. These matter; that does not.
